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How to Handle the Holidays as a Stepparent

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As many stepmothers and stepfathers will know, the holidays can be an absolute minefield — with children and adults alike struggling with the stress of belonging to a step-family. With the absence of one biological parent, children can experience a sense of loss — and, in much the same way, stepparents can feel as if they are being pushed to one side to make others (whether that be exes or biological children) happy.

We've asked Sara Davison, a life and divorce coach, to share her advice on the politics of step-parenting and stepchildren at Christmas.

She explains:

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"There are things you can do to make Christmas easier for you all and as the adult it is up to you to take the lead," Davison says. "It’s important to be empathetic to the children’s point of view and make an effort over the Christmas period to put your differences aside.

If you are a stepparent, here are seven steps to follow at Christmas to make it run smoother:

"The key thing is to remember to set an example to your stepchildren that shows them that blended families can work and are part of everyday society," Davison says. "Show them that just because a marriage doesn’t last forever, you can still find happiness, and it doesn’t have a long lasting negative impact on everyone involved. It is a great lesson for children to learn and set them on the right track for finding love when they get older."

This post was written by Kayleigh Dray. For more, check out our sister site Closer.

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