Is This the Ultimate Momzilla-of-the-Bride?
Short answer: Yes. When a mom wrote into an advice columnist to ask if she was being unreasonable by asking that her daughter’s best friend not take part in her daughter’s wedding, the internet — ourselves included — collectively gasped. Her reason for wanting the daughter’s friend booted from the wedding party? She’s handicapped. (Yes, you read that right.)
Weddings are stressful, but while they can certainly bring out everyone’s bad sides, this mom-of-the-bride truly takes the cake — no, not the wedding cake — on bad behavior. If you think your mother-in-law is unbearable, just wait until you read this mom’s insensitive letter for help.
Writing into Slate’s well-known agony aunt advice column, “Dear Prudence,” a mother shamelessly asked if her request that her daughter’s handicapped friend not be included in the wedding procession was unreasonable — seriously!
_”My 27-year-old daughter and her_ [_best friend_](https://www.firstforwomen.com/tags/friends-27611 “_self”)_, Katie, have been best friends since they were 4. Katie practically grew up in our house and is like a daughter to me,”_ the letter starts out. All sounds rosy enough — but read on. According to the writer, Katie was born with a birth defect (not an underlying medical issue) that causes her to walk with a “pretty severe limp,” as she put it. Katie, apparently, has no issues walking in high heels and already had her dress fitted, but mommy dearest mentioned to her daughter that perhaps Katie could hand out wedding programs or record footage of the big day. She explained that she simply didn’t want Katie’s “unsightly” limp to “ruin the aesthetic aspect of the wedding.” Imagine the nerve? While you may feel appalled at reading such a harsh, insensitive suggestion for the dear friend, you’re not alone: The letter writer’s daughter was no longer speaking to her at the time she wrote in to Mallory Ortberg, the writer behind Dear Prudence, to ask what to do about the situation. She does admit that she and her daughter were never that close to begin with, though that’s sort of beside the point, isn’t it? _”This is her big wedding and I want it to be perfect… Is it wrong to have her friend sit out?”_ she finished up. Gee, how can we make it clear to this woman that YES, it’s quite wrong (and that that’s putting it mildly)?
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