Whitney Thore, star of TLC’s “My Big Fat Fabulous Life,” knows a thing or two about body shaming. But after she got an unspeakably terrible letter in the mail criticizing her figure–from a doctor no less–she decided she had enough.
So Thore, who suffered weight gain from polycystic ovaries, or PCOS, shared the horrible note on her Facebook page. Then, she had a few words for the person who sent it.
First off, here’s what the letter said:
“I am not a fan of you or your TV program but at the suggestions of a few of my patients, I have seen 2 or 3 of your programs, which I find to be so distasteful and very dishonest. It is my understanding that you blame your weight gain on polycystic ovaries but that is a bunch of bull; if you really believe that, you are in complete denial. The cause of your weight gain is plain old gluttony and you know it. It is very sad to see you blaming a physical condition (polycystic ovaries) for being a big fat pig rather than blaming it on your lack of self-control. There is nothing about your life that is “Fabulous”; when you are a big fat sow as you are, it is a disgusting existence. You need to get out of denial and do something about your extreme obesity.”
But here’s where it gets inspiring. Thore bravely admits she used to think similar things about herself that the doctor said in the note–before realizing her self-worth was not defined by her weight.
She wrote, “I, too, thought I led a ‘disgusting existence’ for over a decade precisely because of the feedback I got from society like you see here in this letter. The thing is that I don’t believe that anymore. I know that my life has been messy and complicated and overwhelmingly wonderful and I am not defined by how fat I am.”
She said her journey with PCOS was a difficult one, with weight gain only being one part of her health struggle. But it’s clear she’s come a long way since being diagnosed. And that’s even clearer with the message she ended her response on.
She wrote, “PCOS is not even the point of this—it absolutely does not matter why someone is fat (or thin, or disabled, or anything else). All human beings deserve respect. My heart aches for all the human beings this man ‘treated,’ because he clearly treated them poorly and with no respect. He can do better.”
You can read the inspiring message in full for yourself below.
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Lena Dunham Body Positive
"My food intake was a hard thing to share publicly," Lena Dunham told People in 2014. But thanks to boyfriend Jack Antonoff's support she says, "I really feel good with my size now!"
Demi Lovato Body
"I really started to accept my body when the trend started becoming less about super skinny models that was completely unattainable for anybody to have," Demi Lovato has said. "Kim Kardashian, say whatever you want about her, but she has revolutionized what's accepted with curves nowadays."
Amy Schumer Weight Body
"It’s very therapeutic for me to be like, ’Yes, I’m not going to look like a malnourished bird,’ and I like speaking to that, as well as speaking to my work and what I’m doing," Amy Schumer said in a Vh1 press conference when promoting her film Trainwreck.
"It's important people see celebrities, or see me as well, go to the beach and have cellulite and know it, like 'I'm cool, I'm OK with that and I still feel confident,'" Iggy Azalea told WHO magazine. "I don't want to surgery-shame or Botox-shame women, either. It's that balance of being confident with who you are, but also if you do want to change something, if you want to dye your hair or if you want to get breast implants and that makes you happy, I don't think you should be ashamed."
Amber Rose Butt Body
"Yaaaaaas dimples on the booty! #StandUpStraightSoIKnowitsReal #BeautifulBabiesGiveYouBeautifulDimples," Amber Rose has previously said in response to critics who called her butt lumpy.
In response to paparazzi photos taken of her in a swimsuit, JWoww wrote on Facebook, "I want to sit here and say that I’m embarrassed by these pictures but honestly I’m not. I’m a new mom that loves to work out but also loves food as well."
She added, "At the end of the day I am not perfect and neither is my body…I will never try to follow the trend of being stick thin. I follow the trend of what I love in life… And what I love is me. Everyone love yourself and consider yourself #flawless."
Rebel Wilson Body
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Britney Spears Body
Britney Spears is all about embracing her flaws — "my hips are a little bit wider because I’ve had kids" — but also likes to keep her body in check! "I like my workouts to be effective in a short amount of time," she's shared.
"I think it's important to feel like a woman, as well as look like a woman," Beyoncé has said.
Cameron Diaz Body
"I enjoy my body a lot more now than I did in my twenties," Cameron Diaz revealed.
Tyra Banks Body
"I feel good about my curves and my imperfections — my booty, my boobs, my thighs — I embrace it all," Tyra Banks has said.
Mariah Carey Body
"We should all just embrace who we are physically. I'm not supposed to be a stick figure girl. It's just not me," Mariah Carey has said.
Eva Mendes Body
"I love my curves, and I embrace them," Eva Mendes has said.
Christina Hendricks Body
"Even now, it's never been a focus in my life. I've always been fit, I've always been active, and I've always been healthy, but I've just tried to live my life the way I live it. It's nice that I've gotten a lot of positive feedback about it lately, but I'm just doing what I normally do," Christina Hendricks has said.
Kate Winslet Body
"I don't have parts of my body that I hate or would like to trade for somebody else's or wish I could surgically adjust into some fantasy version of what they are," Kate Winslet has said.
"I think people have gotten it wrong. They think their opinion matters and holds weight, and I don't know where or why they're giving themselves so much credit, you know? So I thought it was important for me to remind them that I don't care," Pink told Entertainment Tonight of her body-shaming haters. "My life is full. I like food a lot and I really like to cook. I like to live."
Mischa Barton Body
"I've never claimed to have a perfect body. I eat healthy, I work out. I feel very comfortable. I come from a European family that's always very comfortable with their bodies. You are what you are as a woman," Mischa Barton has said.