Lauren Casper is a wife, blogger, and a mom of two toddlers. One day, she and her husband, John, were shopping for groceries at their local Trader Joe's when both kids began to cry and wail. Lauren and John struggled to stem the tears with cereal bars and distractions.
No dice. Embarrassed, Lauren ran out of the store with her youngest strapped to her chest. Like most moms in that situation, she felt everyone was judging her--and then some. Even on the best of days, the Caspers get stares: They're both white, their kids brown. Their son has autism and developmental delays; their daughter, missing and webbed fingers and toes.
So yes they stand out when they go out together. "Usually I don’t mind, and often I love it. My children are beautiful and so is our story," Lauren wrote on Love What Matters' Facebook page.
"Sometimes though, on the days when we are very far from having it together, I do mind. Some days I get tired of it all and just want to be a family. Not the adoptive family. Not the family with special needs children. Not the unique family… just a family. This was one of those days."
As she was running out the store, she wrote, she heard someone calling out to her. It was a Trader Joe employee, who held out a bouquet of flowers. She told Lauren that she'd been adopted as a baby, and it had been a wonderful thing. "We need more families like yours," she added.
As Lauren choked out her thanks, the woman patted her shoulder and remarked that Lauren had a beautiful family.
"On a day when I felt like we were the worst example of family… a day when I hoped no one noticed us… she did. But she didn’t see what I assumed everyone was seeing. She saw beauty and love and hope and family," Lauren continued.
That was two years ago--and the gift of that simple kind gesture continues to inspire her, Lauren wrote.
"I was tired, hurried, frustrated, and ready to go home. My husband John was pushing the cart as fast as he could to...Posted by Love What Matters on Monday, March 28, 2016
"I was tired, hurried, frustrated, and ready to go home. My husband John was pushing the cart as fast as he could to...
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