Christine Suhan's husband was making her furious. He had left yet another steady job without a backup plan and no other explanation other than that work made him miserable. But then, he confessed to her what he really wanted to do instead.
He wanted to be a stay-at-home dad.
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As Christine explained in a For Every Mom post, she did not take this news well, to say the least. Specifically, she felt betrayed. So she ended up saying something that she is now ashamed of.
"I don’t know if I can love someone I don’t respect," Christine told him. "And I can’t respect someone who has no drive."
Even though their argument resolved itself quickly after that, Christine felt so guilty after having said that.
"I thought wanting to stay home with our kids made him less of a man, and I was disgusted at myself for thinking this way," she wrote.
After speaking with friends and finding out they had similar reservations about their husbands staying home, she realized she had to apologize to her husband--not just for her sake, but for the world's sake.
"I’m sorry that my brain still defaults to the lies that society feeds us," she wrote. "The lies that tell us men who stay home are void of ambition. That they lack passion and drive."
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But beyond the apology, she grew to realize that the world needed more men like her husband.
"You show me what a real man looks like. You show me what respect looks like," she wrote. "Respect doesn’t come from a fancy job with a fat paycheck. Respect is found in the way your eyes well up when you look at our boys, and your heart is bursting with love."
We couldn't agree more!
via For Every Mom
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